[personal profile] loriba
Just to let people know, I have just deleted the message I posted yesterday. This is not because I regret posting it, because I don't. It's because I don't want to be reminded of it every time I come to this site, and if I leave it up I will be.

I have saved a copy of the wonderful comments people left. I cannot begin to express how much better they have made me feel about this whole thing. It doesn't solve anything or make the situation better in any way, but just knowing that I'm not crazy to be supporting my Mother over this makes a huge amount of difference. Thank you all so very much.

If any of you didn't manage to read the post in the past twenty-four hours and would like to, please send me an e-mail and I'll send it to you.

Date: 2008-04-27 09:08 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] glinda-w.livejournal.com
just knowing that I'm not crazy to be supporting my Mother over this makes a huge amount of difference.

Hell no, you're not crazy, you've made the only choice compatible with having a conscience. As did she. It's just so *wrong* that the consequences are so hellish.

(Reiterating what I said yesterday - I will never, never, NEVER understand anyone who supports a molester over the victims and potential victims. I've known too many of the victims, even before I ended up homeless and in the shelters. Of the percentage of women there who were addicts, I'd say that at least 90% had some abuse in their pasts and learned, very early, to "self-medicate" - they may never have a chance to heal.)

Date: 2008-04-27 09:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] loriba.livejournal.com
Thanks glinda. :)

I really don't understand it either, not one little bit. But when you're outnumbered 8-2 on something, you do start to wonder if maybe it is you that's wrong rather than them. The fact that everyone I've told so far has reacted in exactly the same way reassures me that it is just this one family that is fucked up and there are still some decent people around (quite a lot actually ).

What a shame that I'm not related to them instead. :-/

Date: 2008-04-27 10:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bellinghwoman.livejournal.com
FWIW, I would echo what Glinda and everyone else has said in the comments. It's just so unfair that the monster at the heart of this appalling situation has the capability (albeit indirectly) to continue to wreak havoc.

Hugs, sympathy and support from me to both you and your Mother.

Date: 2008-04-27 11:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] niee87.livejournal.com
I agree with what people have posted here and waht I'd read at the last post, Loriba *massive snugs* And I agree with you and your Mother too. You're absolutely not crazy at all.

Date: 2008-04-28 05:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gmh.livejournal.com
Sorry about not replying before; was intending to.

You're doing absolutely the right thing and so is your mother.

Our thoughts are with you; I can only hope that what does happen happens with the minimum pain all around.

Date: 2008-04-28 07:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pendlemac.livejournal.com
As you know, I'm not very good with words, so all I can say that I echo what [livejournal.com profile] gmh said.


Date: 2008-04-28 12:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ciciaye.livejournal.com
You're not crazy in any way. You're a good, kind person, and you don't deserve to be hurting like this. (And the same goes for your Mum, who doesn't deserve to be punished for being a caring grandmother).


Date: 2008-04-29 10:04 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] supermouse.livejournal.com
I read, reacted, digested but didn't get time to reply (my net connection has not been of the best.)

Jut another datum point to say you're not crazy. You and your mum did the right thing. I don't know why a set of people in your family are all about protecting the abuser. *hugs* if wanted.

Date: 2008-04-29 01:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] the-hatstand.livejournal.com
Family loyalties don't have to obey logic; the bond of family is a big part of societal conditioning, especially as something to be relied on when things go bad. It can be hard to reconcile that obligation when someone has willfully violated it.

I agree that she made the right choice, the only possible one. Belated *hugs* to you both.



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